I see a lot of posts where people are declaring that you don’t have to forgive people, don’t be a walking mat, if they hurt you don’t forgive them. But I feel like people don’t understand what forgiveness is. It’s about releasing all your negative emotions so you feel lighter, so you can move on. You don’t have to let people back into your lives if they hurt you, especially if they hurt you repeatedly. You shouldn’t let them back into your life. It’s not even saying what they did was alright. You have a right to anger and hurt, but eventually everyone wants to heal. Holding on forever isn’t good for people. Forgiveness is saying that you have let go of the situation. That you feel nothing about them, because you’ve stopped caring. It’s not about letting them back in. It’s about being free.
But for some of us there’s only today. And the truth is, you never really know."
— Lauren Oliver, Before I Fall (via triste-sirene)